How often do you listen to what someone is saying to you and truly look them in the eye, hear the words they are saying and understand what they are attempting to tell you with words and body language?
If I need to talk about a hard subject, I tend to mute the tv or turn it off completely so that my words are heard and understood.
When people repeat themselves, does that annoy you? Do you know why they are repeating themselves? It could be that they are very worried about the situation, or they are rehearsing what to say or do in an upcoming situation.
I often have dreams where I am screaming but no words are coming out and that usually means I feel like no one is hearing me or that my thoughts/opinions don't matter. This also happens if I have a flashback to previous abuse and I felt powerless then and those old feelings haunt my dreams even 29 years later.
I am not an expert listener or counselor, however, I do my best to listen when I know someone needs to talk and just hash out something that is bothering them. .
Finally after most of my life, I was blessed with a husband that listens to me when I need to talk. He will also hear me out and give his take on the situation if I want to hear it. We have an agreement that if I just need to 'vent about my day', that we can both moan and groan or gripe and then go on about our evening knowing that someone let us talk and supports us in what are working towards.
If you ever want to meet up and have a cup of coffee, just let me know. I would love to have a cup of coffee with you!
If you are in danger, please seek assistance. Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-7233
If you are considering suicide, call the hotline at 1-800-273-8255
There is always someone willing to listen you are not alone. Please take this from a survivor that made it through very dark years and found her voice.
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